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8 great ways to a new you 8如何伟大的一个全新的你

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With much of the media hype focusing on our appearance and how we look on the outside we very often forget our own feelings and what really is happening on the inside.随着媒体炒作多集中在我们的外表和我们如何看待我们在外面很容易忘记自己的感情，真正是在里面发生。 In the constant strive to achieve the 'ideal' physical shape and perfect body, messages from the media, are conveniently forgetting to remind us about our own inner self and the feelings we carry round with us on a daily basis.在不断努力实现的理想'的身体状况和完美的身体，从媒体的消息，都方便地忘记提醒我们对我们自己的内在自我和感情，我们继续进行我们每天轮。 These messages are further reinforced by our peers. Becoming more self aware is an important element of your self development and personal growth .这些消息进一步加强了我们的同行。变得更加意识到自己是个人成长的重要元素，你的自我的发展 。

1. 1。 You are doing your best 你正在做你最好的

We are all too quick to criticise our own output in a strange desire to seek some sort of acknowledgement from our peers that we've performed really well.我们都急于批评我们在一个陌生的愿望，要求我们的一些同行的承认那种我们已经表现非常好自己的输出。 Regardless of whether your behaviour has the desired effect and you receive the necessary compliment it is only your assessment of your performance that really matters; if you've worked hard and done your best there's nothing else you can do.无论你的行为已达到预期效果，你得到必要的赞美，只是你对你的表现评估，真正重要的，如果你努力工作，做你最好的没有什么别的可以做。 Remember with every task you undertake, regardless of the result, you will always have done your best based on the skills, knowledge and resources you have at your disposal.记住，你承担的各项任务，不论结果，你将永远做你最好的技能为基础，知识资源，你and你掌握。

2. 2。 Make your life easier 让您的生活更轻松

Many people will follow a strange principle of taking on extra work in an attempt to gain the approval of colleagues and managers.很多人会走在采取额外的工作，企图获得批准的同事和经理奇怪的原则。 They seek to become recognised as hard working among their peers.他们为寻求成为他们的同行中辛勤工作的认可。 The real effect of this is to provide you with work overload resulting in higher stress levels due to the additional pressures of yet more impossible deadlines.这项工作是提供更高的压力水平造成的，由于还有更多的额外压力不可能期限超负荷您的实际效果。

If you are guilty of this, I suggest you stop taking on the extra workload with immediate effect and approach all your own work with a structured written plan.如果你是内疚，我建议你停止服用就立即生效额外的工作量，以一种结构化的书面计划的所有自己的工作。 Each job you undertake break it down into smaller, more manageable, tasks.每个作业你进行分解成更小，更易于管理，任务下来。 The number of times I've had to emphasis this when tutoring engineering students who were preparing and planning their assignments and project.多少次我不得不重视这个工程时，辅导学生谁正准备和规划的任务和项目。 The following statement is what I quote to them every time:下面的语句是我对他们每一次报价：

“How do you eat an elephant? “你如何吃掉一头大象？ One bite at a time!”一咬一次！“

This really does sum up that by breaking your work down into easier and smaller tasks, it affords you more clarity and a higher likelihood of achieving a successful outcome.这确实打破总结成更小的任务更容易和你的工作下来的，它使您更清晰和取得成功的可能性更高。

3. 3。 Give yourself credit 给自己的信用

Giving yourself the credit you are due has been covered in more depth in an earlier post, “ How to give yourself credit .”你给自己的信用是由于已包括在更深入在以前的职位，“ 如何让自己的信用。“

4. 4。 Start to believe in yourself 开始相信你自己

There are so many people who struggle to believe in themselves and recognise the skills they possess.有这么多的人谁相信自己的斗争，承认他们所拥有的技能。 This is a direct result of their lack of confidence and low self esteem.这是对他们的信心和缺乏自尊低的直接结果。

If you've been brought in an environment where you were constantly encouraged to try new things, make mistakes and break a few things you will be unperturbed about trying something new and risking the embarrassment of making a mistake.如果你一直在那里你带来了不断地鼓励尝试新事物的环境，会犯错误，打破了一些东西你会泰然自若约尝试新的东西及危害做一个错误的尴尬。 In fact your mistake will merely be seen as a temporary setback and one of your many learning experiences.其实你的错误，只会被视为一个暂时的挫折和你看到许多学习的经历之一。

However, if you lived in an environment full of criticism you'll struggle to make the necessary steps forward without the confirmation of those around you.但是，如果您的环境中充分的批评，你就很难作出前瞻性未经确认你周围的人生活的必要步骤。 Taking on a few small straight forward tasks that you can complete successfully, without too much trouble, will help raise your confidence levels.对有一些小的简单的任务，你能成功完成，没有太多的麻烦，将有助于提高你的信心水平。 Try this, be patient with yourself as you build your confidence.试试这个，耐心与你建立自己的信心。

5. 5。 Positive thinking 积极思考

Your self talk, to be more precise, your negative self talk is one of the most destructive elements you possess.你的自我交谈，更准确地说，你的消极的自我谈话是最具破坏性的因素你拥有一。 Those messages you continue to send to yourself on a daily basis eat away at your self esteem and confidence; they'll keep you in check and prevent you making any notable success.这些信息您继续发送给自己每天吃你的自尊和信心去，他们就会让你检查，防止你在作出任何显著成就。

Start today with a firm commitment to begin with positive self talk; when you find yourself correct yourself immediately with a positive affirmation such as, “this is not like me, I am a positive thinking person”.开始以坚定的承诺，开始以积极的自我谈话今天，当你发现自己立即纠正自己如积极肯定，“这是不喜欢我，我是一个积极思考的人”。 Allow yourself the time to make the changes, be patient!允许自己的时间作出更改，要有耐心！

6. 6。 Plan your way with goal setting 计划您的方式与设定目标

Goal setting is generally associated with the life coaching process, however you don't need to be working with a life coach to use it. 目标设定通常是相关联的生活教练的过程，但是你不必为工作生活教练 ，以使用它。 The process is fairly straight forward but does need to be practiced on a regular basis. If you are unsure what is involved with goal setting please refer to an earlier post “ Why is goal setting important .”这个过程是相当简单的，但确实有需要的基础上实行定期。如果你不能确定什么是“涉及与目标设定后，请参阅先前为什么目标设定的重要。“

7. 7。 Calm down and take your time 冷静下来，慢慢来

Many people are very easily irritated, it's a wonder they've not already had a nervous breakdown.许多人很容易生气，这是一个奇迹，他们还没有已经精神崩溃。 With a more relaxed attitude and calmness of mind they could very easily respond with a more appropriate behaviour.以更轻松的态度和冷静的头脑，他们可以很容易地做出回应，更适当的行为。 The reason for their anger is within themselves.对他们的愤怒的原因是在自己。 They are angry with themselves and what they can't achieve, however they continue to vent their anger onto others and blame them for their misdemeanour.他们与自己生气，什么也不能达到，但他们继续发泄到别人的愤怒和指责他们的行为不端。

Learning to relax and adopting a change of language and vocabulary will encourage a more socially acceptable behaviour.学会放松，并通过了语言和词汇，将鼓励更多的社会接受的行为改变。 Practice these changes in situations where you are in full control of your emotions before you try the more challenging scenarios.实践中这些变化的情况下你完全控制你的情绪，然后才尝试更具挑战性的场景。 Be reasonable with yourself and allow yourself a few mistakes; the changes you experience will enhance your life and those around you.合理与自己，让自己犯了一些错误，你的改变将提高您的生活经验和你周围的人。

8. 8。 Whatever happens learn from your experience 无论发生什么事你的经验借鉴

Whatever happens with everything you undertake, whether it's a success or otherwise, always take it as a learning experience.无论发生什么事你承担的一切，不管它是一个成功与否，始终把它作为一个学习的经验。 This applies for simple straight forward or more complex experiences, whether it's having to wait in a queue at the supermarket or it's the theft of your car.这适用于简单的直线前进或更复杂的经验，无论是不必在队列中等候在超市或它是你的汽车被盗。 Take the positive from the experience; for instance in the queue at the supermarket ask yourself, “what am I learning from waiting in this queue?” Or if you lose your car, “what have I learnt from my car being stolen?”从积极的经验，在队列中的实例在超市问自己，“我是什么学习在此队列中等待？”或者，如果你失去了你的车，“什么都知道我从我的汽车被盗？”

I'm not saying it will be easy to reflect on the negative situations and take a positive attitude; however you will benefit from the changes and with some practice the changes you make will become easier, eventuality becoming second nature.我并不是说这将是很容易反映在负面的情况，并采取积极的态度，但是你会和一些从实践中作出的变更受益你会变得容易，万一成为第二天性。

Follow these eight great ways to a new you, add them to your Personal Development Training and you'll soon be enjoying the benefits of new thought processes and attitudes towards how you present yourself.按照这8大方法一个新的你，将它们添加到您的个人发展训练 ，你很快就会享受的利益和态度的新思维过程towards你如何展现自己。 Record your progress in your journal diary and watch the new you appear! 日记记录你的进展，你的日记，看着全新的你出现！

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