With much of the media hype focusing on our appearance and how we look on the outside we very often forget our own feelings and what really is happening on the inside.随着媒体的炒作更侧重于我们的外表，以及我们如何在外面，我们往往忘记了自己的感情，真正是在里面发生的事情。 In the constant strive to achieve the 'ideal' physical shape and perfect body, messages from the media, are conveniently forgetting to remind us about our own inner self and the feelings we carry round with us on a daily basis.在不断努力实现从媒体的'理想'的身体状况和完美的身体，信息，交通方便忘记提醒我们自己内在的自我感觉，我们和我们与我们进行全面的日常。 These messages are further reinforced by our peers. Becoming more self aware is an important element of your self development and personal growth .这些消息进一步加强了我们的同行。变得更加意识到自己是你的自我发展和个人成长的重要因素。
1. 1。 You are doing your best 你正在做你最好的
We are all too quick to criticise our own output in a strange desire to seek some sort of acknowledgement from our peers that we've performed really well.我们都非常迅速批评我们在一个陌生的愿望，要求我们的，我们已经表现很出色，一些同行的承认自己的输出类型。 Regardless of whether your behaviour has the desired effect and you receive the necessary compliment it is only your assessment of your performance that really matters; if you've worked hard and done your best there's nothing else you can do.无论你的行为已经收到预期的效果，您会收到必要的赞美，只是你对自己的表现评价，真正重要的，如果你努力工作，做你最好的还有没有别的可以做。 Remember with every task you undertake, regardless of the result, you will always have done your best based on the skills, knowledge and resources you have at your disposal.记住你承担各项任务，无论结果，您将永远做您的最佳基础上，技能，知识和资源，您在您的掌握的。
2. 2。 Make your life easier 让您的生活更轻松
Many people will follow a strange principle of taking on extra work in an attempt to gain the approval of colleagues and managers.许多人将遵循对参加额外的工作，试图赢得同事和经理批准奇怪的原则。 They seek to become recognised as hard working among their peers.他们寻求成为最大努力在同龄人之间工作的认可。 The real effect of this is to provide you with work overload resulting in higher stress levels due to the additional pressures of yet more impossible deadlines.这个实际效果，是提供工作应力水平较高的原因是没有期限更不可能造成额外的压力超负荷你。
If you are guilty of this, I suggest you stop taking on the extra workload with immediate effect and approach all your own work with a structured written plan.如果你是这个罪，我建议你停止在立即生效的额外的工作量，并以一种结构化的书面计划的所有自己的工作。 Each job you undertake break it down into smaller, more manageable, tasks.你从事每项工作分解成更小，更易于管理，任务下来。 The number of times I've had to emphasis this when tutoring engineering students who were preparing and planning their assignments and project.多少次我不得不重视这个工程时，辅导学生谁正准备和规划的任务和项目。 The following statement is what I quote to them every time:下面的语句是我引述他们每次：
“How do you eat an elephant? “你如何吃掉一头大象？ One bite at a time!”一咬一次！“
This really does sum up that by breaking your work down into easier and smaller tasks, it affords you more clarity and a higher likelihood of achieving a successful outcome.这确实总结，通过破坏你的工作分解成更小的任务，它使您更清楚地，有取得成功的可能性较高。
3. 3。 Give yourself credit 给自己的信用
Giving yourself the credit you are due has been covered in more depth in an earlier post, “ How to give yourself credit .”给自己的现在轮到你了更深入的包括在先前的帖子信用，“ 如何让自己的信用 。”
4. 4。 Start to believe in yourself 开始相信自己
There are so many people who struggle to believe in themselves and recognise the skills they possess.有那么多的人谁斗争，相信自己，认识到他们所拥有的技能。 This is a direct result of their lack of confidence and low self esteem.这是他们的信心和自卑缺乏的直接结果。
If you've been brought in an environment where you were constantly encouraged to try new things, make mistakes and break a few things you will be unperturbed about trying something new and risking the embarrassment of making a mistake.如果您一直在那里的环境带来的不断鼓励你尝试新事物，犯错误，你休息一会坦然对尝试新的东西，并冒着犯错误的几件事的尴尬。 In fact your mistake will merely be seen as a temporary setback and one of your many learning experiences.事实上你的错误，只会被视为暂时的挫折和你的许多学习经验的人物之一。
However, if you lived in an environment full of criticism you'll struggle to make the necessary steps forward without the confirmation of those around you.但是，如果您居住的环境中充分的批评你奋进没有周围人的确认作出必要的步骤。 Taking on a few small straight forward tasks that you can complete successfully, without too much trouble, will help raise your confidence levels.以几个简单的小任务，成功就可以完成，不会有太大的麻烦，将有助于提高你的信心水平。 Try this, be patient with yourself as you build your confidence.试试这个，要有耐心，你对自己建立自己的信心。
5. 5。 Positive thinking 积极思考
Your self talk, to be more precise, your negative self talk is one of the most destructive elements you possess.你的自我谈话，更准确地说，你的消极的自我谈话是最具破坏性的因素都具备的。 Those messages you continue to send to yourself on a daily basis eat away at your self esteem and confidence; they'll keep you in check and prevent you making any notable success.这些消息你继续发送每天给自己吃你的自尊和自信以外，他们就会让你检查，防止在你作出任何显着的成功。
Start today with a firm commitment to begin with positive self talk; when you find yourself correct yourself immediately with a positive affirmation such as, “this is not like me, I am a positive thinking person”.开始以坚定的承诺，开始积极的自我谈话今天，当你发现自己纠正自己的积极肯定立即如，“这不像我，我是一个积极思考的人”。 Allow yourself the time to make the changes, be patient!让自己的时间作出更改，耐心等待！
6. 6。 Plan your way with goal setting 计划你的方式与设定目标
Goal setting is generally associated with the life coaching process, however you don't need to be working with a life coach to use it. 目标设置一般与生活教练进程相关，但是你不必须与生活教练使用它。 The process is fairly straight forward but does need to be practiced on a regular basis. If you are unsure what is involved with goal setting please refer to an earlier post “ Why is goal setting important .”这个过程是相当简单的，但确实需要定期实行。如果您不能确定这有什么设置 ，请参阅先前的帖子“ 为什么设定目标的重要 目标 ，涉及的。”
7. 7。 Calm down and take your time 冷静下来 ， 慢慢来
Many people are very easily irritated, it's a wonder they've not already had a nervous breakdown.许多人都非常容易生气，这是一个不知道他们已经不是已经精神崩溃。 With a more relaxed attitude and calmness of mind they could very easily respond with a more appropriate behaviour.有了更为宽松的态度和精神，他们可以很容易的反应是冷静的行为更合适。 The reason for their anger is within themselves.民众愤怒的原因是在自己。 They are angry with themselves and what they can't achieve, however they continue to vent their anger onto others and blame them for their misdemeanour.他们感到愤怒与自己什么也不能达到，但是他们继续给别人发泄他们的愤怒和指责他们的轻罪。
Learning to relax and adopting a change of language and vocabulary will encourage a more socially acceptable behaviour.学习放松，并通过了语言和词汇的变化将鼓励更多的社会接受的行为。 Practice these changes in situations where you are in full control of your emotions before you try the more challenging scenarios.实践这些情况的变化您身在何处的完全控制自己的情绪，然后再尝试更具挑战性的情况。 Be reasonable with yourself and allow yourself a few mistakes; the changes you experience will enhance your life and those around you.合理对自己，让自己犯了一些错误，您遇到的变化将提高你的生活和周围的人。
8. 8。 Whatever happens learn from your experience 无论发生什么事情你的经验借鉴
Whatever happens with everything you undertake, whether it's a success or otherwise, always take it as a learning experience.无论发生什么你承担的一切，不管是成功与否，坚持把学习体验。 This applies for simple straight forward or more complex experiences, whether it's having to wait in a queue at the supermarket or it's the theft of your car.这适用于简单直线前进或更复杂的经验，无论是不必等待在超市排队，或者它是你的汽车被盗。 Take the positive from the experience; for instance in the queue at the supermarket ask yourself, “what am I learning from waiting in this queue?” Or if you lose your car, “what have I learnt from my car being stolen?”从积极的经验，在队列如在超市问自己，“我是学习在这排队？”或者，如果你失去你的车，什么“我从我的汽车被盗教训？”
I'm not saying it will be easy to reflect on the negative situations and take a positive attitude; however you will benefit from the changes and with some practice the changes you make will become easier, eventuality becoming second nature.我并不是说这将是容易的负面反映情况，并采取积极的态度，但是你会从这种变化中受益，并与一些实践变化你将变得更容易，万一成为第二天性。
Follow these eight great ways to a new you, add them to your Personal Development Training and you'll soon be enjoying the benefits of new thought processes and attitudes towards how you present yourself.按照这8大到一个新的方法，你，将它们添加到您的个人发展培训 ，您将很快对如何享受自己目前的新思维和态度的好处。 Record your progress in your journal diary and watch the new you appear!记录你在你的日记看日记的进展和出现的新的你！
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